I’m not one to sleep with a girl on the first date. I have a lot of friends who assure me that the third date is nearly a guarantee, but I don’t really subscribe to that theory either. I like to let that part of a relationship evolve organically. But, that doesn’t mean I don’t like to be prepared just in case.
I keep my apartment fairly clean generally. I vacuum at least once a week, my bathroom is pretty spotless, and my furniture is all in pretty good shape. But there are things I generally don’t keep 100% visitor-ready. I rarely make my bed, for example. Often, I’ll throw a sweater or two on a chair in my bedroom when I decide I don’t need that many layers and not re-fold them until a few days later. I’ve been teaching myself guitar (gradually) and sometimes I leave it lying on a sofa in my living room. So, the apartment isn’t spotless.
But I must admit, Thursday night and Friday morning, I start cleaning — just in case — and carefully make my bed. And, to be honest, it’s not in case a girl wants to spend the night, it’s really just in case she wants to come up for a glass of wine or to hear my awful guitar playing. I’ve never pressured a girl into anything and I’m quite proud of that. In fact, I’ve at least twice had to turn a girl down after she got drunk and seemed to want to go uhhhh all the way that night. In both cases, I didn’t want to ruin a potential relationship by having a one night stand with a girl who seemed really great.
I also keep my apartment stocked, just in case. Plenty of extra toilet paper, extra new toothbrushes and mouthwash, plenty of clean towels, a collection of hotel soaps and shampoos, tissues, etc. This isn’t really in preparation for the one night stand, rather it’s in preparation for date number x where a girl does decide to spend the night. I think it’s a nice courtesy to have enough hygienic products so if they do spend the night, they at least feel comfortable. Honestly, I think a lot of these things have been more helpful with friends spending the night on my couch considering I’ve only had a grand total of four girls who weren’t old friends ever spend the night at my place.
Is this a common practice? My bet is that a lot of guys do something similar. But, I do have female friends who have horror stories of waking up at some guy’s place where he doesn’t even have a clean toilet seat.
A bonus I’ve been considering lately is keeping around more cooking supplies — I think it could be fun to make breakfast with a girl the next morning. Not something I’ve ever tried early on in a relationship, but it seems like a good way to transition from the early morning pillow talk.
